“Some parenting manuals claim that the best way to teach kids about lying is by example, but I think that’s just because most parenting manuals are written by people who don’t love their children enough to come up with imaginative and overly complicated lesson plans. Like maybe leave a box with a big bow on it in plain sight in the closet and tell your kid that they aren’t allowed to peek until their birthday and then later stumble into their room and be all “Oh my God, I’ve been bitten by a python. Quick! Bring me the present from the hall. It’s filled with powerful python anti-venom vapors. That was my gift to you” and then they’ll bring it to you and you’ll open it and breathe deeply from the box and then you look at them with horror and shock and say, “THERE’S NO ANTI-VENOM LEFT. YOU OPENED THIS AND NOW I’M GOING TO DIE. THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS. WHEN. YOU. DON’T. LISTEN.” Then die slowly and agonizingly in front of them with a look of deep disappointment on your face. Then they’ll be all “Why?! Why did this happen?!” and you’ll be like “Well, it probably happened because you didn’t listen to me” and then they’ll be all “Wait … I thought you were dead!” and you’ll be like “Well, that’s because you’re 5 and you don’t know how anti-venom works. Pythons don’t even have venom. Why do we bother to buy you all those Ranger Rick magazines if you’re not even going to read them? That’s the second lesson. Don’t just look at the pictures. The words are there for a reason, Hailey. This isn’t Playboy. It’s education.” BAM. Two lessons in one.”—
“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.”—F. Scott Fitzgerald (via katyjean)
Graphical representations of time always interest me. I love calendars, clocks and watches. They make time visual. I’m an active swing dancer and I go to a lot of dances and weekend long events. While at the different events there ends up being a lot of talk about different upcoming events and people asking each other if they’re going. Trying to remember exact dates can get fuzzy since no one is in business scheduling mode - and typically don’t have a handy calendar. I thought it would be cool to have a mini calendar that was organized to highlight the weekends. It would help people plan their weekends out - it wouldn’t be limited to dancers. For this need I came up with a Dance Card.
And I want to share this with the world. Here’s the PDF with directions. Let me know what you think about it. Or if you have any cool uses for it that aren’t dancing related.
Brilliant! :) It’d be nice to have a physical piece of paper in addition to my ipod’s calendar~
“I once wore nothing but violets all through one season, as a form of artistic mourning for a romance that would not die. Ultimately, however, it did die. I forgot what killed it. I think it was her proposing to sacrifice the whole world for me. That is always a dreadful moment. It fills one with the terror of eternity.”— Oscar Wilde ‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’ (via feather-fey)
Please note that this thread is intended to be completely non-judgmental!
I never really wrote fanfic, unless you count the column I did for Comicbookresources.com for a number of years. I find the concept of it very interesting, socially speaking. It seems to mean more to many than simply exercising some creative itch, as it were.
I’m not allowed to read it, for legal reasons, so I don’t go to the fanfic sites and I don’t know who the players are, but I’ve always felt that it is an interactive process, not hugely different from artists drawing their favorite characters or cosplayers dressing up as same.
But maybe I’m wrong, I don’t really know.
So my questions are;
1) Just background detail (you can skip this bit if you like) What kind of fanfic are you attracted to, how long have you been doing it, is it mostly solitary or are you part of a community?
2) What is it you get out of writing fanfic? What motivates you to do it, what is it that you like about doing it? Is it social, simply a creative impulse, or what? What makes you happy about doing it?
3) Do you see a downside at all? Do you have any frustrations with fanfic or the fanfic community? Do you feel that people judge you unfairly for it?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this, thank you!
1) I wrote and read a lot of Harry Potter fanfic, especially before the last book came out. I tend to gravitate towards fics that allow themselves to be inserted in the actual story without much trouble. Writing about a character’s past, for example, when it was never clearly stated, or writing about something that happens after the end of the series itself. I started writing them seven years ago, but I’ve been sporadic at best in regards to updating and maintaining longer fics. I used to have a few friends that I talked to consistently who also wrote and read fanfics, but now I write it as a solitary thing when I have an urge to get out.
2) It’s creative impulse. It’s a way to keep from talking about my own original works to everyone all the time and actually be able to write a story/novel without posting about all of the plot points on the internet. What I love about fanfics is that you can jump into this already established world and write about something you’re trying to explore in your own life - I’ve found I write fanfiction most often when I’m missing a romantic connection in my life, and it’s always about couples. Rather than skip ahead in writing a story or novel to get to write one specific couple scene and get my frustrations out, I can make use of characters I feel like I met and know, rather than created. I can jump into their world and put them in a situation and think how they would react. It’s very much a writing exercise for me, and it can be a great stress reliever.
3) The one major frustration I have is the response I get on certain stories. It takes me a while to get to the point where I feel a story is complete and I feel happy with it. Usually, the stories I’m really proud of are the ones that are a little more serious, philosophical, abstract. They’re also the ones that typically get the least amount of positive feedback. It’s disheartening to put something out there that you’re proud of and notice that the thing you wrote in half the time as a joke is better received by the community.
“As men, we very rarely, if ever, know what it’s like to face unwelcome comments and jokes from
a co-worker and go through a process of deciding, like so many women do, if it’s “worth it” to
say or do anything.
We don’t know what it feels like to ask our friends if our arms look fat or to hear comments like
“just another ten pounds and you’ll be perfect.” We don’t know what it feels like, because we
don’t have to buy Spanx, we don’t have to conform, and we don’t have to combat unhealthy
body images coming at us from multiple directions.
We don’t know what it’s like to deal with the burden of birth control. We don’t try to understand
what it feels like to remember take a pill every day, to deal with the insurance and associated costs, to confront yearly invasive exams, and to live with possible physical side effects. We don’t seem to realize that birth control is not just an issue for women deal with; it’s an issue that we should also take responsibility for.
We don’t know what it’s like to have our intuition dismissed, especially when we sense danger
and feel unsafe. How would we know? We men are perceptive and women are just overreacting.
This is why the sexism we have to combat in this country is the kind we don’t even notice. It’s
the sexism that we wave off as, “That’s the way things are.” It’s the kind of sexism we haven’t
even started to address in our society at large. And because we refuse to dig deeper to learn
about the everyday struggles of women, we persist with behavior that simultaneously hurts
women and drives the issue of gender discrimination deeper into a hidden underworld.”—Yashar Ali, “Men Will Never Truly Understand A Day In The Life of Women. But Shouldn’t We Try?” (via crookedindifference)
“It’s kind of crazy that everybody expects for it to be normal to be in a romantic relationship, it’s so specifically special.”—
A friend of mine said this to me in a conversation I had a long while ago about the nature and meaning of love as it applies to relationships.
It’s something I agree with, yet am prone to forgetting. So I’m putting it here so maybe I won’t have to randomly stumble across a chat log with this somewhere in the very middle of it to remember how true the words are.